For many people, their wedding is one of the most highly-anticipated days of their lives. Couples spend so much—not just money—but time and energy to ensure that their big day unfolds like a fairytale. But even though their weddings were a dream, many admit that there were some details that could’ve been better. Some might dismiss these as minor. But for others, they have quite a number of wedding day regrets–and they’re speaking up so future brides and grooms can avoid them!
We asked real-life brides to spill their own wedding day regrets. Take note and be sure to avoid these like the plague!
Here are 4 Common Wedding Day Regrets of Brides:
1. Waiting until the last minute
“I should’ve started planning earlier.” – CL, married in 2014
Whether you’re getting a professional planner or going the DIY route, it’s always best to start early. Look for wedding checklists online or take note of tiny but important details during the weddings you attend to make sure you don’t forget anything during the planning stage.
2. Forgetting the hair
“I wish I had decided on what I really wanted [for my hair] before I got too dazed during my wedding day. I was so busy during the big day that I couldn’t focus on details as much as I would have liked.” – DS, married in 2015
Believe it or not, 40% of the brides we interviewed had hair issues as one of their top wedding day regrets. Talk it out with your HMUA until you’re completely satisfied. And bring your trusty BFF who won’t be afraid to speak up if your hair looks too much like your wedding cake. It’s also common for brides to get their makeup and hair trial on the day of their prenup shoot, but it’s not entirely advisable if you want different looks those separate days.
3. Compromising on suppliers
“I should’ve paid for the videographer I really wanted. Mine was good but I wasn’t fully satisfied with the output.” – MA, married in 2016
“I told my photographer about my limited video budget. He made a good recommendation and I had no problems with either of them. They were all very accommodating and supportive.” – JP, married in 2012
Most couples agree that investing in a photographer and videographer are extremely important. Whatever your budget may be, it’s important to get to know your suppliers, especially these two. Talk to them about what you want (Lots of candids vs. Formal Pamilya Zaragoza-style portraits? Maybe a Confessional SDE like Cris Villonco’s?) and look at their body of work before making the decision to hire. If you want their service but their fee is slightly above your budget, discuss adjustments in the package until you can reach something you can be happy with. The same is true for all suppliers! You will be working with these people for months so make sure you like one another and can communicate openly.
4. Ignoring the RSVPs
“I wish I could’ve done a better headcount. Approaching the big day, I had a moment of panic and decided to add seats but it turns out the original count was just right. So I ended up paying extra.” – DS
“I should’ve assigned a person to receive my calls on the day itself. People were calling to congratulate me while some were suddenly not going to make it.” – OG, married in 2016
“We had way too much leftover food.” – JN, married in 2012
We confess, who among us hasn’t ignored an RSVP every once in a while? So it’s best to assign someone who will religiously count your guests and help finalize your guest list. This way, you know exactly how many people you’re feeding and how many seats there should be, especially if your reception venue is in some faraway land or would require additional tents or floor space should you go over your initial headcount. Also, being gracious hosts, we never want to run out of food. But getting a better headcount will at least help ensure less food wastage and therefore minimize our carbon footprint. Hurray!