There’s a reason why traditions are called that—we tend to live by these time-tested rituals. But Alexis and Eula’s out-of-the-box wedding proves that the unfamiliar can be just as comforting.
Wedding myths and traditions: there are a lot of them, especially in this country. Siblings cannot get married in the same year. Guests shouldn’t wear black. The buffet should always be overflowing. But when Alexis and Eula decided to have their out-of-the-box wedding, it wasn’t just to go against the grain. Rather, they thought carefully about all the details that they felt suited their tastes and principles. They wanted to have a wedding that truly gave back and paid forward to the people who mattered to them.
“I didn’t do the bouquet toss. Instead, I offered it to my grandmother who passed away four months before our wedding. She was supposed to walk me down the aisle. To make sure that her memory was present, I pinned a necklace with her picture engraved in the pendant.”
(Read more about Wedding Memorials and honoring your departed loved ones.)
“We also didn’t have a souvenir to give away to our guests because we donated the souvenir budget to an organization who provided school supplies for students in need.
Throughout the ceremony and reception, the couple’s conscious decision to move away from tradition could be felt in the simplest ways. They even decided to forego the romantic personal vows, opting for straightforward wedding rites. In this way, they managed to pare down their out-of-the-box wedding celebration yet still make it memorable and fun in their own way. We’re glad to feature their story because it’s truly one of those #WeddingsWithHeart!
A Familiar Love Story
We’re familiar with the story of friends turning into lovers. Lightyears before their out-of-the-box wedding, Alexis and Eula were just schoolmates. Even though they belonged to the same circle of friends during their schooldays, it was only in adulthood that they were able to find love in each other.
“We have different personalities. Alexis being the shy type while I being the outspoken type. However, what made us compatible were our choices and our decisions.”
Preparing for their out-of-the-box wedding
Fast forward to the present and, like any couple planning for their big day, Alexis and Eula had their anxiety-inducing moments. For the bride, it revolved around getting her dream make-up artist. She had decided on Bambbi Fuentes and booked her a year prior to their wedding. It turned out that her wedding would fall on the same day as Bambbi’s birthday!
Even though the secretary had assured Eula that Bambbi would be there, our bride still felt scared that she wouldn’t show up. After all, who would want to have to wake up early and work hard on their birthdays? Little did she know that her Top Knotters moment would come courtesy of her MUA herself.
“Bambbi and her team were the first to arrive at the hotel. I was so starstruck that I almost forgot to greet her a happy birthday… I felt like a celebrity that day, especially when she posted my photo on her Instagram account. Celebrities liked my photos!”
The rest, as they say, is sweet history. Below, Alexis and Eula share their insights on the entire planning process to help other couples with their own special day.
1. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
“I wished someone told me that I shouldn’t worry or stress myself over the littlest details that could go wrong during the wedding.”
As they say, worrying will get us nowhere and worse, it may add worry lines and wrinkles to our faces. Remove those frowns and put them upside down!
2. Focus on the use, not on how beautiful it will look.
“The wedding car that I booked was not the wedding car given to me. I made a big deal out of it but, in the end, my guests actually liked it.”
While pretty things add color to the day, what still matters most is that the couple are happy. When guests see you happy, then they will be too.
While planning can become overwhelming, Alexis and Eula have found out that enjoying the moment is the most important thing you can and should do for your marriage. We hope that their out-of-the-box wedding inspires you to take a chill pill and focus on what truly counts!