Staying connected is important, especially to help you get through that definitive first year of marriage (aka The Paper Year). We’ve consulted Lissy Puno, a Singapore-based counselling psychologist and marriage guru to give us some tips on how to preserve or rekindle that connection with one’s spouse.
Recent close encounters with (not the third kind but with) newly married couples reminded us of two things. One: adjusting to married life is often difficult and poses a very real threat to your sanity (can we get an “Amen”?). And two: it’s been months since we promised a follow-up to this article on the challenges newlyweds face. For both, we are truly sorry. But don’t stay mad at us for too long! We’ll try to make it up to you by sharing these tips for staying connected with your spouse as relayed to us by Singapore-based counselling psychologist Lissy Puno.
Organizing a wedding is a cinch compared to the many challenges facing just married couples. To help you get through that definitive first year of marriage, we’ve consulted Lissy Puno, a Singapore-based counselling psychologist who is also a marriage guru in her own right.
Most just married or soon-to-wed couples are level-headed enough to know that married life is nothing at all like Cloud Nine (operative word: most). But the reality is, you’re never truly prepared for that first fight, first scream fest, or first walk out. So while we might not be there to literally hold your hand through the difficult first year of marriage (we have our own lives you know), we’ve taken it upon ourselves to do as much as we can to help.
Just Married: When the Honeymoon Ends
Marriage is a walk in the park. That is if the park were the Grand Canyon, and you’re forced to carry a 60L backpack while walking barefoot through the whole thing. In short, it’s friggin’ hard!!! And the first year is the hardest. Fights can start even before the honeymoon ends—and over the smallest things too!
“We had our first fight over salted egg. My husband was used to it being sliced, but where I came from, we peeled ours.” – Babes
“I was leaving for a work trip. My wife had taken a dump but the flush wasn’t working. Because I was feeling so much pressure at work, I ended up shouting at her over it. There was a lot of crying. I ended up missing my flight and rebooking for the next day. We laugh so much about it whenever we remember that fight.” – AE
A huge chunk of your wedding budget goes to food, which is why wedding food planning should never be overlooked. If you feed your guests (and suppliers) well, you can be sure it’ll be a fun night for all!
If you’ve ever been to a wedding or any event, then you know that one of the most awaited parts of the program is when the food is finally served. You might even know one or two individuals who go straight to the reception (please don’t be that person!). It’s unnecessary for us to say it but we will anyway: food is incredibly important. We don’t just eat to live. Sometimes, we live to eat too. That’s why wedding food planning should never be left ’til the last minute!
‘And they lived happily ever after’. Though it’s a line from a fairy tale, isn’t this what we all wish for as we leap into this next chapter of life called marriage? We may find ourselves on our way to this happy ending, specially when we feel that we’ve found “the one who makes me happy”. Not to burst anyone’s bubble, but just for a bit of a reality check, it’s likely that there may be times when that one person will make you unhappy too. But fret not, because there is such a thing as finding joy in marriage.
So, how do we go about finding joy in marriage? We asked for tips from happy couple Ninay and JQ Quimpang. Ninay’s an HR practicioner while JQ is an events host and inspirational speaker. People around them know them to be a fun-loving couple. Married for 8 years, having passed the so-called 7-year-itch,
Keep your sanity at your next fair with our bridal fair cheat sheet! You’re most welcome.
No matter how much you’ve looked forward to your special day, there will come a point during your planning stage when the music fades and you feel like giving up. Our guess? That point came while agonizing over either your guest list or your suppliers. So we’ve taken upon ourselves to compile our very own bridal fair cheat sheet, and hope it saves you some money on painkillers. As for your guest list, well, that’s another story.
Most brides will attest to this: one of the most important decisions during wedding planning involves choosing a bridal gown that is just perfect for you. We asked a few industry insiders for advice to help you (finally) decide on yours.
The perfect wedding dress sometimes seems more like a mythical creature when you’ve tried on twenty, thirty RTW gowns and find you still cannot make up your mind between that princess ball gown or the sexy lace mermaid dress. Some brides have worn two dresses on their big day—probably because they couldn’t decide on just one. But for those of us who can’t afford that kind of luxury (because we need to be practical adults every once in a while), choosing a bridal gown that will flatter our God-given features seems almost impossible.
Ladies planning for a beach or boho wedding, better take a look a this Trizha Dimayuga bridal collection . We’re sure you’ll enjoy browsing through this enchanting yet chic set.
Having been a bridal couturier for the past four years, Trizha now debuts with her first bridal collection.
“I have to say that my style has really evolved over the years. That I have found my aesthetic of modern simplicity.”
Makeup is a wonderful thing. You know what’s even more wonderful? Makeup on a clear, blemish-free complexion.
You must be thinking, isn’t that what makeup is for? To give me skin that is smoother than a baby’s bottom? Let me give you the cold, hard truth. Makeup can and should correct all your discolorations such as dark circles underneath your eyes, redness or age spots. But sadly, it cannot flatten out bumps and fill in lines on the skin. Though it can help in making them less noticeable, makeup cannot magically even them out. But though not all of us have been blessed with a naturally blemish-free complexion like Pia Wurtzbach, there’s no reason for us to panic (yet)!
Don’t let your fear of kids crying while you say your vows prevent you from inviting your beloved little ones on your big day! Forego your adults-only affair for a kid-friendly wedding instead!
Every soon-to-wed couple wants to have the perfect wedding—one that’s solemn or sentimental at the right times, and lively and cheerful when appropriate. Most guests understand this code. But when some of your guests haven’t learned to go potty or tie their own shoelaces yet, it’s too much to expect them to do the same. Fret not! An adults-only affair isn’t your only option. With the right mindset and strategy, you can have a perfect and kid-friendly wedding too!
To be or not to be? To airbrush or not to airbrush? These are just some of the questions playwrights and brides have been asking themselves for eons. Let these five in-demand makeup artists guide you towards the light!
There are millions of pages and threads devoted to discussing bridal makeup. If you’re not careful, you could get sucked into a time vortex just reading one article after another. But since time is gold and we have limited supplies of both, we thought you’d like to hear from some of the country’s most sought-after makeup artists and get the answer once and for all. Airbrush or traditional? It’s not as easy as you would think. Read on for precious insights, straight from our Top Knotters!