Organizing a wedding is a cinch compared to the many challenges facing just married couples. To help you get through that definitive first year of marriage, we’ve consulted Lissy Puno, a Singapore-based counselling psychologist who is also a marriage guru in her own right.
Most just married or soon-to-wed couples are level-headed enough to know that married life is nothing at all like Cloud Nine (operative word: most). But the reality is, you’re never truly prepared for that first fight, first scream fest, or first walk out. So while we might not be there to literally hold your hand through the difficult first year of marriage (we have our own lives you know), we’ve taken it upon ourselves to do as much as we can to help.
Just Married: When the Honeymoon Ends
Marriage is a walk in the park. That is if the park were the Grand Canyon, and you’re forced to carry a 60L backpack while walking barefoot through the whole thing. In short, it’s friggin’ hard!!! And the first year is the hardest. Fights can start even before the honeymoon ends—and over the smallest things too!
“We had our first fight over salted egg. My husband was used to it being sliced, but where I came from, we peeled ours.” – Babes
“I was leaving for a work trip. My wife had taken a dump but the flush wasn’t working. Because I was feeling so much pressure at work, I ended up shouting at her over it. There was a lot of crying. I ended up missing my flight and rebooking for the next day. We laugh so much about it whenever we remember that fight.” – AE
‘And they lived happily ever after’. Though it’s a line from a fairy tale, isn’t this what we all wish for as we leap into this next chapter of life called marriage? We may find ourselves on our way to this happy ending, specially when we feel that we’ve found “the one who makes me happy”. Not to burst anyone’s bubble, but just for a bit of a reality check, it’s likely that there may be times when that one person will make you unhappy too. But fret not, because there is such a thing as finding joy in marriage.
So, how do we go about finding joy in marriage? We asked for tips from happy couple Ninay and JQ Quimpang. Ninay’s an HR practicioner while JQ is an events host and inspirational speaker. People around them know them to be a fun-loving couple. Married for 8 years, having passed the so-called 7-year-itch,
Here’s a lovely Turquoise themed wedding of a couple whose love story was borne out of an office romance.
There’s also a cute back story to their first meeting, which seems to be a prelude to Krystel carrying the keys to Ryan’s heart. At that time, it was an ID badge that helped Ryan have access to get around their office building.
“It all started in year 2010. We were both new to the company, I started January of 2010, while Ryan started May of the same year. We were both IT engineers, Desktop Support Engineer back then, and part of our daily task was to handle end user requests, like software installation, computer login issue, etc. I was assigned to accompany him since his ID badge was not yet activated and he needs to transfer to a different floor. As I needed to do my daily tasks and perform floor to floor support, I had to leave Ryan first since he also has a different task assigned by our team lead, which was located at 6th floor. By lunch time, I was still occupied by the end users’ requests and totally forgot about Ryan being left alone at 6th floor (haha!). Our team lead already called him at his mobile phone however, he cannot leave 6th floor since I haven’t returned to fetch him. Then our team lead finally called me, reminded me that I should fetch Ryan. That’s the time that I remembered that I left him there. When we went back to our workstation, we are all laughing about what happened.”
Makeup is a wonderful thing. You know what’s even more wonderful? Makeup on a clear, blemish-free complexion.
You must be thinking, isn’t that what makeup is for? To give me skin that is smoother than a baby’s bottom? Let me give you the cold, hard truth. Makeup can and should correct all your discolorations such as dark circles underneath your eyes, redness or age spots. But sadly, it cannot flatten out bumps and fill in lines on the skin. Though it can help in making them less noticeable, makeup cannot magically even them out. But though not all of us have been blessed with a naturally blemish-free complexion like Pia Wurtzbach, there’s no reason for us to panic (yet)!
Don’t let your fear of kids crying while you say your vows prevent you from inviting your beloved little ones on your big day! Forego your adults-only affair for a kid-friendly wedding instead!
Every soon-to-wed couple wants to have the perfect wedding—one that’s solemn or sentimental at the right times, and lively and cheerful when appropriate. Most guests understand this code. But when some of your guests haven’t learned to go potty or tie their own shoelaces yet, it’s too much to expect them to do the same. Fret not! An adults-only affair isn’t your only option. With the right mindset and strategy, you can have a perfect and kid-friendly wedding too!
To be or not to be? To airbrush or not to airbrush? These are just some of the questions playwrights and brides have been asking themselves for eons. Let these five in-demand makeup artists guide you towards the light!
There are millions of pages and threads devoted to discussing bridal makeup. If you’re not careful, you could get sucked into a time vortex just reading one article after another. But since time is gold and we have limited supplies of both, we thought you’d like to hear from some of the country’s most sought-after makeup artists and get the answer once and for all. Airbrush or traditional? It’s not as easy as you would think. Read on for precious insights, straight from our Top Knotters!
Everybody knows looking for gifts for men can be tricky. So here are a few unique and quirky, mostly DIY gifts that our male readers themselves confess to absolutely loving!
We love Love as much as the next person. But Valentine’s and other special occasions have sometimes got us scratching our heads. For one thing, getting THE perfect gift makes us feel like high school students trying to build an egg parachute to be thrown over the fourth storey window. You only have one chance lest everything breaks apart… Okay, so nobody serious actually breaks up over crappy gifts, right? But it’s a sincere desire to make the other feel loved that drives us on this quest. So we decided to help our readers out by coming up with this list of unique and downright quirky gifts for men; your guy will thank us!
Now you might be asking, why gifts for men? Well, just because we’re also a bit in love with all things Korean, we wanted to share this little trivia with you. In Korea, Valentine’s Day is traditionally known as Red Day, wherein it’s the women who usually give chocolates to the man in their life. Although the practice has since evolved, we’re taking inspiration from this tidbit for our Valentine feature. We asked our male friends and readers to tell us the best gifts they ever got that made them feel extra special and loved. Below are some of our favourite answers. See which ones you can take inspiration from!
Having a beach wedding just two years after meeting each other may sound like an impossible dream for some. But for Niza & Andoy, this is their awesome reality. As Shawn Colvin’s ‘When You Know’ puts it, ‘when it’s clear this time you’ve found the one, you’ll never let him go.’ In this case, Niza & Andoy just didn’t let go of each other. With the vows they made, they never will.
Theirs is a wonderful story that aptly demonstrates how ‘love moves in mysterious ways’. Though it may seem that things happened pretty fast to be engaged a year after their first meeting and then get married a few months after, their story actually started years before that. It started at a time when neither knew that the other existed but they had a common prayer to as to what kind of partner they want to have for life. Of course, it was also made possible with the help of some very supportive, well-meaning friends who knew of their hearts’ desires.
No date for Valentine’s? Or traumatised by the Feb. 14 traffic scene from years past? We’ve got you covered! Read on for our list of favorite wedding movies to binge on!
We’re not ashamed to admit that we love a good romantic comedy. Sure they may have fed our unrealistic fantasies about our own happy-ever-afters. Since then, we’ve aged and have finally come to accept that life is more complicated and not always as cute as a Joyce Bernal or Nora Ephron movie. But who says we’re not allowed to daydream about our love lives turning into a RomCom? Who?!? Let us share with you a few of the best and most over-played scenes in our heads from some of our favorite wedding movies.
Using wedding fireworks have direct impact on the environment and on our health! Here are more eco-friendly ways to bring sparkle into your wedding.
We love firework displays for different reasons. Some of us believe that having wedding fireworks will pave the way for a bountiful year ahead. Others can’t help but wax romantic at the sight of rainbow-colored explosions against the dark of night. But anybody who has ever plucked her eyebrows knows that beauty comes at a cost, and this cannot be truer than in the case of fireworks.